Worried about a friends relationship this Christmas? Here's 5 thing you can do to support victims of domestic abuse

The festive season is often full of celebrations, gatherings, and family time, but it can also be a time where worries about loved ones become more obvious. If you’re concerned that someone you care about may be experiencing domestic abuse or controlling behaviour in their relationship, there are practical steps you can take to help, even during the busy holiday season.

1. Check in regularly

A simple message or phone call can remind someone they’re not alone. Over the holidays, when routines are disrupted, even a short “I’ve been thinking about you, how are you?” can make a difference.

2. Listen without judgement

If your friend opens up about their relationship, let them speak at their own pace. Avoid giving advice straight away or questioning their choices. Just being heard can be incredibly validating.

3. Share resources safely

Give them information about domestic abuse support services, phonelines, or local charities. Even if they don’t act immediately, knowing where to turn is important. Click here for resources

4. Offer practical ideas for safety

Help them think through simple steps, like keeping important numbers handy, knowing safe places to go if things escalate, or having a plan to leave quickly if needed. A small safety plan over the holidays can provide peace of mind. Click here for more information on staying safe together

5. Keep the conversation open

Even festive gatherings can be a gentle way to show that you care. Let them know you’re available to talk, sometimes the smallest gestures, like a winter walk or a quiet coffee away from the Christmas rush, can give someone the space to open up.

Supporting someone through an abusive relationship can feel overwhelming, especially during the holidays when emotions are heightened and routines are disrupted. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to have all the answers simply being present, offering a listening ear, and sharing safe options can have a powerful impact. Small gestures, like checking in during a busy Christmas week or offering a quiet moment away from the celebrations, can make a real difference to someone who may be feeling isolated or trapped. Supporting someone else can take a lot of energy, so looking after your own wellbeing ensures you can continue to be present and offer support safely.

Remember: Domestic abuse doesn’t take a break over the holidays. By checking in, listening, sharing resources, and gently keeping the conversation open, you can make a real difference to someone you care about this Christmas.

If you’re unsure what to do, talk to us on our phoneline. We can talk through your concerns safely, anonymously, and provide options and support for both you and your loved one.

Talk to us: 0300 140 0061