The word “toxic” has been gaining popularity on social media, but what does it actually mean in relationships?
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, you or a friend might be heading out on a date. Whether its first date jitters or a night out with a long-term partner, it’s important to recognise “toxic traits” early on – these behaviours can actually be red flags for abusive relationships.
Here are warning signs to look out for in your friend's relationship:
Love bombing
Have you noticed your friends date overwhelming them with excessive gifts and compliments? Are they pushing for commitment way too soon? These are all signs of love bombing, a manipulation tactic used to gain control early in the relationship.
Gaslighting
Have you noticed your friends partner dismissing their feelings, denying things they previously said or make them feel like they’re overreacting? Phrases like “That never happened” or “you’re too sensitive” are all gaslighting tactics. This is a dangerous manipulation tactic and a form of emotional abuse, to make them question their sanity or perception of the situation. You can learn more about the types of abuse here: Should I be worried? | Findaway
Being over critical
Keep score
Isolating you from family and friends
Do not underestimate “toxic traits” – these behaviours can be signs of domestic abuse and can be dangerous. You can learn more about red flags here: Should I be worried? | Findaway
If your gut is telling you something is wrong, trust it.
It can be difficult to determine if a relationship is abusive, but what is important is that we educate ourselves to spot the signs and respond helpfully. Findaway can provide you with more information on domestic abuse and how to support here: How can I help? | Findaway
Alternatively, if you have recognised some of these “toxic traits” and are unsure what to do, you can call our anonymous phoneline for a chat and we can discuss your situation anonymously and provide you with support.
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