Football and domestic abuse: the warning signs for family and friends to look out for
- Libby Ward
- Jul 2
- 3 min read
As millions of fans around the world have began to come together to celebrate the FIFA World Cup 2026, communities will be united by a shared love for football. But behind the excitement and celebration, there is a stark reality that cannot be ignored.
Research has repeatedly shown that incidents of domestic abuse increase during major football tournaments, particularly when national teams lose. In England, studies have found that reports of domestic abuse rise by as much as 28% when England play, and 38% when they lose a match. For victims and survivors, a major tournament can become a period of anxiety rather than celebration. While others count down to kick-off, they may be preparing for the possibility of abuse.
The impact of domestic abuse can be felt by family members and friends who are often the first to notice that something is wrong, and may be the first person the victim-survivor confides in. Recognising the warning signs can play an important role in helping someone experiencing abuse to access support.
If you are worried about a friend, here are some warning signs to look out for:
Receiving excessive texts or calls
Your friend may constantly be pressured to give updates on their whereabouts, what they are doing or who they are with.
Isolation from friends and family
Does their partner make it difficult for them to see friends on their own - or at all? You might notice your friend no longer attends social gatherings or rarely responds to calls and messages.
Seeming scared to return home
They may linger, make excuses to stay out longer, or appear unusually anxious about going home after the match.
How Friends and Family Can Help
Stay Connected
Isolation is a commonly used tactic in abusive relationships. Your continued messages, even if they don’t open up straight away, helps to reduce that isolation, and lets them know you care.
It doesn't have to be complicated, a simple “Hope you're okay” can make a bigger impact than you realise. For extra guidance on what to say when reaching out, click here.
Listen without judgement
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply listen to them. Creating a safe space to talk can make an enormous difference. Avoid criticising their choices, and pressuring them to leave, as this can sometimes increase risk.
Encourage safe, professional support
Signpost them to professional services that can support them. Even if they don't feel ready to seek help immediately, knowing that there is professional support is available can be reassuring. Encourage them to explore these options at their own pace, and only when they feel ready to do so. It's important that this is their own informed decision.
It's important to recognise that football does not cause domestic abuse, nor does it create abusers. In many cases, abusive behaviour has been present long before a major sporting event begins. However, tournaments such as The World Cup can contribute to an increase in violent, controlling, or abusive incidents. These incidents are always the result of the perpetrator's choice.
Supporting someone experiencing abuse can also feel overwhelming and emotionally draining. You can seek support for yourself. You can call our confidential phone line on 0300 140 0061 or speak to us via our online webchat, and we can discuss your situation anonymously and talk through options and support.
You can also speak to us via our online webchat, and we can discuss your situation anonymously and talk through options and support.
